In polyamory, terms like “cowboy,” “cowgirl,” or “cowherd” describe people who deliberately pursue relationships with polyamorous individuals with the goal of eventually pulling them into monogamy. This isn’t just a matter of preference—it’s a manipulative tactic that disrespects the foundational values of consensual non-monogamy and attempts to reshape someone else’s relationship orientation to fit a more culturally dominant mold. These individuals often sow seeds of doubt, positioning monogamy